Need for Action

My family aside most of my close friends know what kind of background that I came from.... Suffering years of abuse from family members.... Then 6 years of abuse from my ex husband.... I use to think that I deserved to be treated badly..... That I did something to deserve it.... That if only I was the way they wanted me to be then they would love me.....

But I learned that this isn't about love that this about control... And no matter what you say or do its not going to change unless I change.... I learned that there is nothing wrong with me..... That I did nothing to deserve any kind of abuse...... That the problem is there's...... And it doesn't matter who I am or what I do to them it will never be good enough... But that it is their problem....

Something happened last night.... my next door neighbors were fighting and I had heard the woman getting beat up..... I did what I wished someone would have done for me...... I called the police..... They have a baby.....

It has been almost 2 years since my ex husband was arrested for what he had done to me.... And my daughter and I are still having problems coping with what we both been through.... My daughter was about 4 almost 5 and she still struggles with flashbacks, trust, and separation anxiety still today....

The situation will not get better the abuse will only get worse unless the abuser recognizes that they have a problem and are willing to get help.

I guess I hope that whoever may read this and knows of someone who is being abused will not be afraid to take a stand.... Abuse effects more then just 1 person.... and the effects of the abuse last for years.....

Mental, verbal, emotional, physical or any kind of abuse is never ok....